Our journey always begins at birth. Your first cry, the first word you learn to speak, the first time you spelled your name, the first step you take---these were the easiest tasks.As we go on with life, these tasks become heavier, harder, and sometimes, they seem impossible to overcome, and you'd feel like giving up.
It is not always rainbows and butterflies, we all know that by now. When you were a kid, you had skinned knees and ant bites, slight fevers and constipation, and your Mama and Daddy always had a solution. A bribe, and some loving words to keep you calm, and they always succeeded.
As you grow up, you realize that fairy tales aren't real, and you'd learn the hard way at times. There would come a point in your life when you will feel like you know what's best for you better than your parents do, and you'll prove yourself wrong,always almost too late.
They would tell you that you're not old enough to handle a relationship, but you wouldn't listen, because you tell yourself they don't know how you feel. You'd experience your first heartbreak, it will hurt like hell,but you could not tell them, because you disobeyed their words.You will nurture your own broken heart alone,wishing all the time that you listened to them.
You'll learn to let go and move on,quite proud that you managed to fix yourself without anyone's help. You will make new friends,bring them home,but you will not introduce them properly to Daddy who passes by as you watch a movie,throwing you a hopeful glance,wishing you'd proudly introduce him to your friends.You will not introduce them to Mama,who anxiously moves around the kitchen to make you snacks,and when she brings it to the living room,she will see your friends' feet propped on her white silk couch,with their shoes on...But she wouldn't say a word.
After your friends' visit, Daddy will call you to his study, where he and Mama will be waiting for you to tell you that your friends are up to no good.But because you had a really nice time with them,you wouldn't listen.You'd think they were only saying this because your friends messed the house up.
You'd continue hanging out with the wrong crowd because they accept you for who you are.All these times, Daddy will never stop reminding you that you are worth so much more, and Mama will always tell you how much you mean to her, and you will pull away from her hug, because you are now too big for them,and that it embarrasses you,especially in front of your friends.Mama will be hurt,but she'll never let you see her cry.You'll go on with your own life and just go home to eat and sleep.If only there's a way you could move out,you definitely would.
You will still go to school, cutting classes occasionally because your friends asked you to.You'd lie to your parents just so you could attend the coolest kid's house party,making an excuse about a school project that you have to finish. Daddy will have an idea about what's really going on, but Mama will ask him to let you off the hook every once in a while,because you deserve to have some fun.
Your occasional house parties will drastically be held more often,until it becomes as often as everyday.You will chew candies before going home so that Daddy wouldn't smell the alcohol in your breath.Mama will always remind you to do good for your future,you will always nod just so she could shut up already.You'd have enough of those talks.
As years pass by,you grow more and more irresponsible and selfish, until one day,the world you knew will be so different from the world you live in.You now have a child with no father (or you're the father,the child is with her mother), or married at a very young age. You will walk down the aisle between Mama who would not be able to stop her tears, and Daddy,who will be weak and bald because of years of work just so he could give you a bright future.You will live in a little house with your new spouse and your mother in law,who will serve as your alarm clock every waking day of your life--she will never fail to remind you how you ruined her child's life,even though you would honestly think it's the other way around.
You'd spend most of your days working your butt off to pay for house rent and buy your own child's necessities, all the while, your relationship with your spouse falls badly apart. You will live in hunger, hatred, and regrets, and it will all boil down until one day. you'd find yourselves bursting with frustration because the relationship isn't working anymore. You'd go on your separate ways.If you're a girl,you'd take the baby with you.If you're a boy,you'd go back alone to Mama and Daddy, and your ex wife will be giving you limited amounts of time to see your child.
You'd sleep in your own room,but the house will never be the same anymore. May nights, you'd lie awake in your bed, wondering what might have happened if you listened to Mama and Daddy.You would cry yourself to sleep,feeling useless and worthless,because of all your mistakes in the past.
Daddy will not talk to you for sometime,while Mama will give you some much needed hugs for comfort.After a while of healing and grief,Daddy will speak to you again, his grandchild in his lap.Mama will talk you into going back to school, and you would agree. Your child will grow up with Daddy and Mama, and if you're unlucky enough,she or he will treat you like a brother or sister,because while you are away,Mama and Daddy will come to love her/him like their own,therefore they'll treat her like she's their child.
You will graduate,you will be successful,and back on the right track, but you will never be happy. Your child did not grow up with you, so you will never be that close. You'll feel your heart breaking everytime he/she runs to Mama or Daddy for comfort, not you. You'd wish you made a different choice.
Time will pass,and you'll all grow old. Mama and Daddy will probably be six feet under now, and you're living your life with your child, and perhaps, a new spouse. As you watch your child grow up,it will be like you're watching your little self through your parent's eyes. You will realize how right they always were, and you'll try and raise your child like they tried to raise you. Your child will resist, just like you used to do. You sit back and watch as he/she ruins his/her life step by step, and there will be nothing you could do, but wish to be able to turn back time and do it all over again,only this time,you will listen to them.
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